Why Does Self-Love Even Matter?


Is self-love something you can obtain through a makeover or a shopping spree? Can you get more of it by reading something inspirational or motivational? Or can a new boo make you love yourself more?

The answer to all of these questions is “no.”

Although they feel good and are gratifying in the moment, you can’t grow in self-love through these types of activities.

Self-love is not simply a state of feeling good; it’s dynamic, which means that it grows through actions that mature us. When we act in ways that expand self-love within ourselves, we begin to accept our weaknesses as well as our strengths much better, have less need to explain away our shortcomings, have compassion for ourselves as human beings struggling to find personal meaning, are more centered in our life purpose and values, and expect living fulfillment through our own efforts.

We usually search for love outwardly because that is how, as children, we found love and security. It was rewarded to us when we did good things, but we didn’t grow out of this as we got older. We continue to look for love in other people, but the truth of it is, the love you are looking for can only come from within. That is why someone else’s love will never be enough for you to be truly happy, and you can never feel safe if you are not comfortable with your own capabilities.

It’s cool shouting, “love yourself” from the top of our lungs, but for those who find it hard to, those who experience their needs going unmet, of having countless disappointing relationships, prolonged periods of isolation or loneliness, abusive partners, or emotionally neglectful parents/caregivers—it can leave you feeling like there is something wrong with you.

So, how do we fix this…? 

By utilizing the Self+Love (P)roject), I believe that we can be retrained to love ourselves completely.

Upon successful completion of this course, you will be able to:

  • Ask for help when you need it
  • Not let others take advantage of (or abuse) you
  • Hold yourself accountable
  • Speak life into yourself
  • Let go of grudges or anger that holds you back
  • Forgive yourself when you mess up
  • Honor your feelings in real-time
  • Pursue your own interests and goals
  • Challenge yourself
  • Be more assertive
  • Recognize your strengths—skills, talents, and abilities
  • Meet your own needs
  • Prioritize your own health and well-being
  • Spend time around people who support you and build you up (and avoid people who don’t)
  • Make healthier choices
  • Turn your passions into purpose (or a profitable profession)
  • Live in accordance with your values
  • Accept yourself—flaws and all

Course Content

  1. Introduction

  2. Week 1: Who Are You?

  3. Week 2: Become Your Own Best Friend

  4. Week 3: What's Your Worth?

About this course

  • 9-Week Program
  • Self-Paced
  • Community Support

Benefits of S+L(P)

In addition to the affordable program cost, flexible format and schedule, interactive coursework, as well as the community support, here are a few extra benefits:

  • Take advantage of our 1‐on‐1 coaching sessions. Whether you want to focus on a particular aspect of the (P)roject or something completely separate, receive personal solutions and strategies that can help you continue your self‐love journey.

  • Between now and 2030, the need for social and emotional skills will grow at a much faster pace than the need for cognitive skills. List your SLP ‘Certificate of Completion’ on your resume to demonstrate that you are a highly emotionally intelligent person.

  • Let’s say, growth, healing, and mental wellness really call out to you, you can become a trained facilitator yourself! Once you successfully complete SLP, you’ll be able to show others in the world what it looks like to love Self without limits, because you did it first!

Be proud of yourself for choosing this path.

You deserve it!


  • Is this program only for women?

    No. The course material presented by the Center of Elevation is applicable for all, no matter the race, gender, or creed.

  • How old do I have to be to take this program?

    This program is intended for adults, but we would not discourage this material being shared with those 15 and up.

  • I enrolled. What happens next?

    Now, that you have enrolled into the Self+Love (P)roject, you will have access to content from Week 1 to get you started. There is a welcome video, course instruction, and a class syllabus included in the materials.

  • What are the technical requirements for the program?

    All online courses require an internet connection. Generally, you'll interact with your facilitator and other students via email, discussion boards, interactive chat rooms, video conferences, and/or phone within the Self+Love Society group.